Sunday, November 22, 2009

Authentic Masculinity



The male psyche is normally fragile and insecure because it is based on overwhelmingly external and transitory criteria, a game which almost all men eventually lose. The poor male has to look good and he has to defend the honor of his bank account, his family, his race, his country, but all in reference to himself! His question is not allowed to be “Who am I—really?”, but only “How do I look?”
That is precisely the opposite path from any authentic spirituality. Thus it was males who alone needed “initiation” in most indigenous cultures, and it was males like Jesus and Francis, who walked in the exact opposite direction. -R. Rohr



I feel lucky to have been made aware of this earlier in my life than most men. If most men even come to this realization at all. "Who am I...reallly?" One of, if not, the hardest question I've faced in my life. People often refer to me as firefighter as if it defines me. Internally I identify myself by my weaknesses. Being aware of these makes me struggle to realize the external aspects of my life are not who I am, only a product. Another way I subconciously use external things to mirror the internal. I'll continue to strive to walk the 'opposite direction.' I take into account and organize my internal strengths and weaknesses, fears and dreams, to realize who I am.

Which way are you walking?

Saturday, September 12, 2009

The Guy in the Glass

The Guy in the Glass

by Dale Wimbrow, (c) 1934


When you get what you want in your struggle for pelf,

And the world makes you King for a day,

Then go to the mirror and look at yourself,

And see what that guy has to say.

For it isn't your Father, or Mother, or Wife,

Who judgement upon you must pass.

The feller whose verdict counts most in your life

Is the guy staring back from the glass.

He's the feller to please, never mind all the rest,

For he's with you clear up to the end,

And you've passed your most dangerous, difficult test

If the guy in the glass is your friend.

You may be like Jack Horner and "chisel" a plum,

And think you're a wonderful guy,

But the man in the glass says you're only a bum

If you can't look him straight in the eye.

You can fool the whole world down the pathway of years,

And get pats on the back as you pass,

But your final reward will be heartaches and tears

If you've cheated the guy in the glass.

Thursday, April 16, 2009

Two Wolves


An elderly Cherokee Native American was teaching his grandchildren about life...

He said to them, "A fight is going on inside me, it is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves.

One wolf is evil -- he is fear, anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, competition, superiority, and ego.

The other is good---he is joy, peace, love, hope, sharing, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, friendship, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.

This same fight is going on inside you, and inside every other person, too."

They thought about it for a minute and then one child asked his grandfather, "Which wolf will win?"

The old Cherokee simply replied: "The one you feed".